There comes a point in your life when you realize:
Who matters,
Who never did,
Who won't anymore...
And who always will.
So, don't worry about people from your past,
there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.
Who never did,
Who won't anymore...
And who always will.
So, don't worry about people from your past,
there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.
I have been REALLY REALLY REALLY struggling lately with the situation going on between John and his sister. It has been almost a year (this coming Saturday 9/12) that they last spoke. My heart aches for so many different reasons, and after I got the phrase above in an e-mail it all seemed to make sense to me. I need to stop worrying. I need to stop trying to mend the pieces back together, as the pieces don't belong together...at least not now and not by my hands. I need to lean on my family and friends for support and listen to their wisdom and guiding words, and not care about what his family might say about me.
Right now she is not a part of my future and I need to realize that this is okay. I am not a bad person for keeping her in my past. Heck, if anything, it makes me a stronger person.
Right?
5 comments:
I think that makes a lot of sense. It's hard to let go of people or situations that don't always work, but sometimes it's necessary. We had to do that with one of dh's friends. It just wasn't a healthy friendship anymore, you know? Sounds like you are doing the right thing, but I understand why it's hard.
You knew you were opening a door when you ended with "right"? :)
A bitter heart eats at your soul and hurts you more than her.
Try to see past the anger. Try to love her for being John's sister, for for the person you once knew, for the good things you hope come her way. Dislike her actions. And you can do this all without talking to her. Let your husband take care of his relationship with his sister. Support him, role model for him.
The real revelation about forgiveness is that it doesn't have to be two-sided for your heart to heal. And you grow as a result. YOU grow. And that's a good thing, right?
xoxox
Hugs!
You make perfect sense. Take care of you (and those you love) and forget about those that don't care back.
I feel your pain... literally! :(
It's a horrible place to be in and as hard as it is, you are handling it right. It's up to John to determine how to move forward and you just need to be there for him, and know that you have an amazing family and friends supporting both of your every moves!
as I said on facebook, I absolutely love this!! so true!
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